149. The Tea with Bri and Heather P

[00:00:02] Speaker A: Tea with Br I'm trying to live. [00:00:07] Speaker B: My life I just need space to grow I'm just trying to make it. [00:00:13] Speaker A: Right these people won't let me go I'm just trying to live my life I just need space to grow I'm just trying to make it right these people won't let me go Let me grow, let me go, Let me grow, let me go they should know, they should know they should know, they should know I'm just trying to live my life I just need space to grow. [00:00:39] Speaker B: I'm just trying to make it right. [00:00:54] Speaker A: Welcome to the Tea with Bri. I'm your host, Bri. Thanks for listening. The T With Me podcast is focused on deep, honest and vulnerable conversation. Each week I sit down with a different guest in order to have those conversations. Every week we'll start my guest bio and intro to how we know each other and then we'll go into a deep dive conversation about whatever topic they brought to me that week. This week, I am joined by my guest, Heather Pavage. Heather Pavage, who uses she her pronouns, is a behavior analyst, wife, mother, and small business owner in Central Florida. Heather is a Florida native who started her college path as an art history major but ended up finding her happiness working with children and adults with varying needs. She received her bachelor's and master's degree from the University of Central Florida in the area of exceptional student education. She then completed courses in behavior analysis at Florida Institute of Technology before passing the board exam in 2013. Heather worked as a special education teacher for 10 years before transitioning to full work as a behavior analyst. And after nine years as an independent contractor, Heather and her business partner Kim, formed Summit Therapies in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and have learned a lot about life, building a business and balancing it all while not really having it all together. The company expanded farther in the summer of 2024, adding swim safety and instruction for children and adults with varying needs. [00:02:14] Speaker B: Hello. Hi Bri. [00:02:17] Speaker A: We did it. [00:02:19] Speaker B: We made it. [00:02:20] Speaker A: We have made it. I need everyone at home to know that it is years of us scheduling, rescheduling. To be fair, my fault. My life as you know, makes no sense. And I decide every two or three years, like, I'm moving because why not? Because life is short, so pack up and move so. [00:02:41] Speaker B: And I think I've been like, the underlying manifestation of you moving because every time I'm like, let's schedule this, I might she's gonna move in two weeks. I know it. And then you're I'm moving back to you. [00:02:52] Speaker A: Correct. [00:02:53] Speaker B: I did that. I'm sorry. [00:02:55] Speaker A: And the thing is, that's literally how my life is. I'm just like, one day, like, I just want to move. Like, I just feel called to leave. And everyone's like, but you have a job and an apartment. I'm like, yeah, that's fine. [00:03:06] Speaker B: But those are. Those are transferable things. You're young and independent. [00:03:10] Speaker A: I am. I am single with no children. I just turned 35. [00:03:15] Speaker B: Yes. [00:03:16] Speaker A: Why not? You know, just. Just jaunt it up. [00:03:19] Speaker B: I'm like, before, your life changes in a way that makes it harder to do those. Do it now. Move now. [00:03:25] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. I'm like, travel. [00:03:27] Speaker B: You can change jobs. [00:03:28] Speaker A: I don't care. I do all the time. I'm like, you guys, nothing is permanent. Everything is figureoutable. [00:03:35] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:03:36] Speaker A: Let's just pack it up and then. [00:03:37] Speaker B: And you also have a consulting business, which I think people who aren't in independent contracting and consulting, I think they don't understand how easy it is for us to transition in and out of different work environments because we're very used to it. Like, I'm very used to having different contractors constantly. So the idea of changing jobs is kind of what I do. Whereas people who have. I think it's kind of an older mindset, but it's still followed by a lot of the population who have the very traditional nine to fives. [00:04:05] Speaker A: They. [00:04:06] Speaker B: The idea of upheaving that and leaving is terrifying. [00:04:11] Speaker A: I know. Just talking to one of our donors yesterday, he is about to retire. Young guy in my young. I mean, he's 62 to me, I'm like, that's so young. And he's like, well, I've been at the same job for 29 years. I'm like, the same job. He's like, yeah. I'm like, 29 years. He's like, yeah. And I met someone, a woman, yesterday. We were on the phone and she's been. She just retired and she's at her company for 35 years. And I was like, girl, what? Like, that is just such a far fetched idea. I think, like, my dad's been of the state for forever, so I'm like, people do it in that generation, but I think the millennials, I think we're just like, no. Like, we could hop around because I think we quickly learned that, like, we don't need to kill ourselves to work this job and they'll replace us really quickly. So we're like, we're just gonna Be. [00:05:03] Speaker B: Bop around like if you pass today, they're gonna rehire your position. [00:05:10] Speaker A: Yeah, I saw something really morbid a couple months ago, but it's really like helped my brain. It's like JFK was shot at noon and by 3pm the next guy was sworn in. Johnson, I think it was Johnson was sworn in. And I'm like, oh, well that's put a lot of things into perspective for me because why are we out here worried about this one job? And they're like, we'll just find a new one. [00:05:33] Speaker B: Well, just, it's fine. We'll get someone else. Someone right behind you. Yes. But I love, I love that you move around and I love all your little adventures of moving and traveling. [00:05:44] Speaker A: Oh, I just ended date. I just ended things with the person I was seeing. I have not put it in New York. So I'm like heartbroken about it. [00:05:52] Speaker B: But allow yourself that time. [00:05:54] Speaker A: Who has time for grief? [00:05:56] Speaker B: Okay, your heart needs time for grief. But then recognize, okay, summer's coming. [00:06:01] Speaker A: We don't have time for. Which is why the seasons are changing. [00:06:05] Speaker B: Well, you and I do agree on that. We agree on the, on the seasonal. The whole, I, I was so happy to see on New Year's Eve about the whole, like, I don't do New Year's resolutions. I can't. I'm like, thank you. I've been feeling that way for years. And no one in my life seems to get that like, we're in the middle of winter, I need to be hunkered down, bundled up, reading a book. [00:06:29] Speaker A: Hibernating, just surviving it, eating all the snacks. Yeah. And we were just talking about like your witchy bog life. But I'm also like, as you know, the witchy crew knows that's not an actual new year. Spring is when you make decisions. [00:06:42] Speaker B: It's when life returns and everyone laughs. [00:06:44] Speaker A: At me because my birthday is March 18th. So right before it becomes spring. So that's when I start to do like all of my, like, what am I going to bring into this year? Like, that's my new year. I'm like, you guys, I'm not being like self centered. March is literally when the seasons change it. [00:06:57] Speaker B: It is literally March spring. [00:06:59] Speaker A: And I'm like, that's when I start thinking about like, who is going to come into my new life this new season with me? What am I letting go of? This is when I start to do my intentions for the, for the next year of my, of my aging. [00:07:12] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:07:12] Speaker A: Which is why I ended things with that person. I was like, this. We're on a hamster wheel. And although I love you deeply, I fear this is never going to move forward. Sounds like I. I love us both enough to let you go and figure it out. [00:07:28] Speaker B: Sometimes it's needed. [00:07:30] Speaker A: And, you know, I don't like being the grown up. I want to just be the baby. Let me just live life. [00:07:38] Speaker B: Sometimes I look around and I'm like, how'd I become the adult here? [00:07:46] Speaker A: It is all a lie. I'm like, yes, I can have pie for breakfast, but I have to go to work and pay bills. Like, no one told me that there was a trade off being a grown up. [00:07:56] Speaker B: I mean, by age, I'm a grown up mentality. Not at all. [00:08:00] Speaker A: No, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not. My best friend. And I had, like, a date. Like, a date day last week because, like, her fiance was busy. We just happened to both, like, be free. And so we went walking in the morning. I came home, showered, did a podcast episode, and then I went back to her house, and we just, like, went on a date together all day. Like, would pay, like, card roulette. Like, I put my card down. We'd, like, tell the waiter. Like, you pick. And we went to, like, four different restaurants and just, like, had drinks and appetizers and dessert and espresso martinis. And we checked our bank accounts the next day. Like, what were we doing? We're living life. Okay. We were living. You're about to get married to a man. Okay? You're about to be locked down. We need to live while we can. And her fiance is, like, the nicest man ever. This isn't about him. This is about me. You're about to be married. [00:08:48] Speaker B: It does change things, but I think I'm one of the few that I think I got. I got really lucky with a guy that, you know. You know, we're together, obviously been together a ridiculous amount of time. [00:09:00] Speaker A: Oh, no. How long? 90. Should know. Oh, my gosh. [00:09:05] Speaker B: We will have been married 19 years this May. [00:09:10] Speaker A: Were you a child bride? 19 years. [00:09:14] Speaker B: Again, let's circle back to earlier. We were talking about the bog witch lifestyle. I have some in the fairies. They do my work. [00:09:22] Speaker A: Yes. 20 years almost. [00:09:25] Speaker B: I was young. My nephews and nieces were married around the same age we were, which is 23. And I remember going to their weddings and being like, who is letting these children get married? [00:09:34] Speaker A: Children? And then Scott, my husband, was like. [00:09:37] Speaker B: We were the same age. It's like, oh, Scott, focus. [00:09:41] Speaker A: Focus on the plot. Okay, stay tuned with me. Lock in Lock in. [00:09:48] Speaker B: Yeah. We were 23. We had been dating. We were high school sweethearts, though, so we've been dating, of course. Of course, For a few years, obviously, since 1999. [00:10:00] Speaker A: Don't do this to us. I'm. [00:10:03] Speaker B: I'm a bit older than you. [00:10:04] Speaker A: No, no. If you haven't noticed, I would never know, you know, the. The bog witch life would never know. That's Florida. That's Florida. [00:10:11] Speaker B: I could see the mental mentality of. [00:10:13] Speaker A: The mask going on. I've already done it. But the Mr. That you have is really doing the work. [00:10:18] Speaker B: Honestly, he's a good guy. But. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're trying to think of, like, the, like, what we're going to do for a 20th and. [00:10:27] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh. Something wild, obviously. [00:10:30] Speaker B: And yeah, the. The idea of, like, when he said it just recently, he. We were on spring break on a trip up to Greenville, South Carolina. Excuse me. And he said something about, like, we got to do something big for our 20th. And I'm like, how many years away is that? It's like one. Sorry, sir. [00:10:48] Speaker A: Scott, it's just been such a fun ride. I've lost count. That's how you. That's how you spend that. [00:10:53] Speaker B: To be fair, we then did something where we had to sign consent, and he got my age wrong. [00:10:57] Speaker A: So I was like, see a stranger. You don't even know this man know me. [00:11:01] Speaker B: And he's like, you're not 42 yet. And I'm like, sir, I am older than you. Yes, I am. [00:11:07] Speaker A: You married a younger man. The scandal. [00:11:12] Speaker B: The cougar lifestyles. For me. [00:11:15] Speaker A: The scandal. Ah, okay, 23. I take this with a grain of salt. As someone who is not married and has never been close to marriage, 23 just feels like such a baby to me. [00:11:28] Speaker B: We were. We were. What were we? [00:11:33] Speaker A: I have friends who got married before 30. And I was like, I don't know. Like, now that I'm in my 30, like, my. I'm just turned 35. I'm like, I don't know if I could, like, looking back now, if I could have gotten married before 30, I probably could have. But now I'm like, I feel like I fully know myself now in my 30s. [00:11:49] Speaker B: I. I will say, you know, we had a bunch of. We had a bunch of friends who got married around the same time, you know, the early 20s, right out of college. And. And we're. We're definitely one of the lucky ones who. Who were able to grow up and grow together. We've A lot of our friends have divorced And. And it didn't work out for different reasons. And I think a lot of it is they just. They hadn't grown up yet, and they were. They grew up and they grew apart and. And there's no shame in that. It's life. But I lucky we grew together because, yeah, we didn't have kids for a while. I think that is the big thing that scared a lot of people. [00:12:31] Speaker A: It changes things. [00:12:32] Speaker B: We told people when we got married that we were not going to try, even try to have children until we were in our 30s, because we wanted to travel and we wanted to just enjoy each other and be with each other, and we didn't want children to. To alter that. And so I think around 27, 28, our friends and family were like, oh, God, you weren't kidding. [00:12:54] Speaker A: No, I told you we weren't. Yeah, I told you it was gonna take a minute. Yeah. I think about two. Two examples. My godparents have been married for 37 years. Children again when they got married. And by children, I mean, like, they're like 22, 23. Infants, children, children. And then so. But they have told me, like, they. I, like, I'm staying with them right now. And like, their example of, like, partnership has been really healthy for me of, like, being married. They're like, being married is like, choose knowing that you'll change your partner, change your relationships will change when you have kids. That'll alter things. And like you said, being able to grow up and grow together. And then my aunt, her and her husband have been together. They've been married for 20 years. Next year, anniversaries, and it's a good year. She did the same thing. Like, they were like, we're going to be married for at least like, six years before we have kids. And they did. And she was like, we just didn't want our kids to ever feel like they were a hindrance. We were selfish. We waited until we were ready, and they're like, we traveled. We did all that thing. Now their girls are in seventh and ninth grade, which is upsetting. I saw them last night. I'm like, you were just a baby. What is occurring? I'm like, what? Where did the time go? It's like, you were just my little baby. I was just looking at baby pictures of them last night, crying, like, can you not? I was like, you were so little, and now you're so mean. And you're a teenager. You're a teenager. [00:14:24] Speaker B: I mean, I don't know. I don't look at not having children as A selfish act. I look at not having children as a healthy boundary setting choice. It is a choice which couples should be allotted. And I think that for us, we made that choice kind of acknowledging the challenges that children can bring. Not that I don't love my children, they are our world. But we recognize that as a new young couple. I mean, we were just graduating college and figuring out careers and oh, living together and I'm sorry, you do what? When you wake up like, ick. [00:15:03] Speaker A: Edward. [00:15:04] Speaker B: Edward. And. And he is my balance. So I'm the person that could lounge in bed until 10am and sleep. And this boy is up at 4:30, like a, like at like a morning glory. Like he is awake, ready to take on the day and, and took time to, to realize, like, no, I'm like. [00:15:27] Speaker A: In between the two of you. I'm like, I can't. Once I'm up, I'm up. But I would also lounge in bed. Like I could be awake and just like lounge in bed, but crack it on. Just up and at him. Okay, sir. Love that for you. [00:15:40] Speaker B: He is. [00:15:40] Speaker A: Tell the chickens in the sun I say hello. I shan't be seeing them today. [00:15:46] Speaker B: Thank you. [00:15:46] Speaker A: That's between the three of you. [00:15:49] Speaker B: There have been a few times where we've gone on vacations and there's like this, the sunrise view. The dogs, they're very upset about the sunrise. So there's like the sunrise walk or something like that and that we both look at it and we look at each other and he looks at me. [00:16:03] Speaker A: And I'm like, you have fun. I'll be over here. Not it. Yeah, you have the best take pictures, have the best time, enjoy. [00:16:13] Speaker B: And our children are like a funny balance of both of us because one of them is very much like me and can lounge around all day and the other one is like him, like up at 6am Even on the weekends. And I'm like, it's funny how we just kind of created like mini versions of ourselves and they do things that like I can, like we each can relate to. And when someone else does it, you're. [00:16:32] Speaker A: Like, huh, 6am on the weekends. [00:16:36] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. But thankfully I have a spouse who's awake. [00:16:42] Speaker A: Are they sports kids? Like, why are they up so early? And I have questions. [00:16:48] Speaker B: We're a pretty active family. Yeah, they, they do sports, but we're not up doing sports on the weekends. They. He's just up. I mean, they're. I don't know. I'm not awake. Bri. [00:16:58] Speaker A: Sorry. I'm so sorry. [00:16:59] Speaker B: Silly girl. [00:17:01] Speaker A: I apologize. Like, that's not my problem. I'm not conscious yet. Awake. [00:17:07] Speaker B: They're a little older now, so they're. They're 10 and 8, and they. He wakes up with them, and he's teaching them how to make breakfast in the morning. So they make pancakes and eggs and stuff like that. And, I mean, it's, you know, about raising good humans. So we got to teach them how to make their own breakfast. You want some eggs? Whip them up right. [00:17:26] Speaker A: And I. My godparents, they're. One of their daughters lives here with her kids, and she has twins, and they're nine. And they were just downstairs like, can you heat me up a breakfast sandwich? I go, no, you're nine. Like, I don't work for you. I'm not a mother. What do I look like? No, do you want kids? I'm like, if the universe decides that I will be a mother, I am open to receiving that. I go, but currently, the way my uterus is set up, probably not. Like, I don't know. Like, I give so much credit to parents, specifically moms. I'm like, childbirth terrifies me now that I'm in my 30s because I have a geriatric pregnancy, which I feel like, is so rude. [00:18:06] Speaker B: It's a rude label. I got that one. It was like, excuse me. [00:18:12] Speaker A: Geatrick. How dare you? I'm just a girl. I'm a youth. [00:18:16] Speaker B: I'm a you. Yeah, it. I don't know. Everyone's story is so different when it comes to that. My. I. I hated being pregnant. I was one of those women that was just like, when are we done? [00:18:30] Speaker A: Thank you for being honest. I feel like everyone's always like, it's the most beautiful thing. [00:18:33] Speaker B: I snarl at women that do that when women are like, oh, my God, I was glowing. I felt so beautiful. I'm honest. The internal thought of my brain is like. [00:18:42] Speaker A: You what? [00:18:44] Speaker B: I. I mean, I violently threw up the first three months at, like, I was teaching at the time of my first son, too. And it became so normal that, like, I would just be sitting at my little table and just, like, puke. And then, like, keep teaching. My kids were like, hello. I just had little puke bags everywhere. It was. It was a. It was a moment in life. Yeah. And. But my labor and delivery was. Oh, I. You know, when it came down to it got the mindset hips. So it was. It was. It was easier. Okay. [00:19:24] Speaker A: My. My college best friend, she. Her kids. What is Dylan. Dylan's about to be nine. Oh, God. Terrifying. But. So I was 20 we were 26 when she had Dylan. She texts me every day what happens to her but what happened to her body? And I was like, this is the best birth control of my life, girl. [00:19:45] Speaker B: There you go. [00:19:45] Speaker A: So much it. I'm like, I'm now 35, still no children. So clearly something. Something stuck in there because something clicked. You want me to. What with where? And these people could come out of your body, A, not even looking like you, which I think is rude Exhibit A. [00:20:02] Speaker B: And B, rude and not even like you. [00:20:06] Speaker A: Like you. You could just think, I am your biggest opponent in life. I carried you for nine months. [00:20:12] Speaker B: I birthed you. [00:20:13] Speaker A: I birthed you. [00:20:15] Speaker B: I grew you. [00:20:17] Speaker A: And this is the thanks I get. [00:20:18] Speaker B: Rude. [00:20:19] Speaker A: Rude. And I know would have a girl. And I. Although I was like, I was a very easy kid. I was a. I was a little bit dramatic. Still am. Proudly. I'm a Pisces. What do you want from me? [00:20:29] Speaker B: Same. I mean, oh, hello. [00:20:32] Speaker A: What do you want me to not be the star? [00:20:35] Speaker B: Right? That's what I was put here for. [00:20:37] Speaker A: Well, I do not wear the crown. I know. I know. To have the most dramatic kid. And I'm like, but, you know, we'll see. We shall see. My. I was at my aunt's last night with her two girls. And one of them is. She's a thespian. And so she. Last night, I text her, like, where are you? Because I. I knew she was out when I was coming over. She's like, I'm at play practice. I go, do you mean rehearsal, you monster? She was like, same difference. And so she pulled up. I go, grace, we're going to Broadway. And if you tell the Broadway people that you were at play practice practice and embarrass me, they're gonna. [00:21:17] Speaker B: They're gonna think you were at, like, a playdate, practicing or something like that. They're gonna be like, okay, great practice. [00:21:23] Speaker A: We are dignified. We are Theta people. Grace. [00:21:26] Speaker B: Yes. [00:21:27] Speaker A: Insulting me. My aunt goes, you can't yell at her. Yes, I can. You can. [00:21:30] Speaker B: I'm her aunt. You can absolutely yell at her. [00:21:33] Speaker A: It's like, she should know better. [00:21:35] Speaker B: Insulting me on most days. Kids should consider it an honor that I didn't yell at you. [00:21:40] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. I'm like, I'm helping her grow. And then last night, we were. She's obsessed with Wicked, which is my favorite show, so I love that she loves Wicked. But we did, like, blind karaoke. So, like, we would just play a song and, like, do you know this one? And so she would sing. I'm like, you're flat. I was like, find your feeding, your footing. Breathe from your diaphragm. You're singing in your nose. My aunt's like, you know, she's like, not going to, like, American Idol. Go. She could. [00:22:03] Speaker B: She could. [00:22:04] Speaker A: She could be. She could be the one to go get a Tony. And I need to prepare her. [00:22:08] Speaker B: You need to be the honesty in her life. That's okay. [00:22:10] Speaker A: I said, you're welcome, Grace. Flat. I'm like, her sister was worse. She goes, ugh, you're flat. Can you have a little bit of. A little bit of decorum? Like, a little bit of niceness? She's like, no, I'm her older sister. She's flat. And I was like, we can't be. [00:22:24] Speaker B: Nice about our constructive notes. [00:22:25] Speaker A: No, no. Scotland's like, you're flat. And I'm saying, okay, I'll just be over here. Ruthless teenager. Girls are ruthless. [00:22:35] Speaker B: I did get lucky and didn't have girls. I mean, I hate to say it like that, but I. [00:22:39] Speaker A: No, no, no. [00:22:40] Speaker B: As a girl who grew up in a house of girls, my husband desperately wanted a girl. And I was like, oh, sweet man. [00:22:51] Speaker A: Well, it was funny because last night, I was like. I said to Scotland, who's. She's a freshman in high school. And I was like, I want the gossip. I was like, I don't know. I don't care what it is. I don't care what it's about. I was like, just. I'm like, I sit at your feet and I want to know. She's like, why? Like, because my life is boring. I love minuscule high school drama because. Please. It was 20 minutes of nonsense. And I was like, oh, thank you. Just fed my soul. I was like, because it's so dramatic, and I'm just thinking ahead of, like, girl, you won't think about this in, like, five. Like, five days from now, it won't even matter. [00:23:25] Speaker B: But I'm like, oh, but it's such drama right now. [00:23:29] Speaker A: It's my Real Housewives. I was like, if I could. And then it was funny because they have the TV screen that, like, switches pictures. So, like, it's like a PowerPoint presentation. [00:23:38] Speaker B: I love this. Yeah. [00:23:39] Speaker A: And so we're looking. I was like, oh, is she in this picture? She. Yeah, actually, she is. [00:23:42] Speaker B: I'm like, yes. [00:23:43] Speaker A: Like, show me her. [00:23:45] Speaker B: Let me find her. [00:23:46] Speaker A: Where is she? My aunt was like, you can't come over anymore, and you cause true chaos in our household. I was like, yes. [00:23:55] Speaker B: What am I here for not to be an act of chaotic good. Hello. [00:23:59] Speaker A: I am not here to make your children question why I'm not here more often. I'm the fun one. [00:24:06] Speaker B: That's what I'm here for. I'm the feral crazy ant. [00:24:09] Speaker A: I'm like, I am the fun one. Aunt Kathy. I'm just here to remind the girls that there are no rules. None of this matters. Go to school, be a good person, do your hobbies, maybe go to college, maybe don't, whatever. [00:24:22] Speaker B: Follow your path. [00:24:23] Speaker A: There's no rules here. I was like, I am the reminder that there are no rules. She's like, this is great. Thank you so much. [00:24:29] Speaker B: As a parent. [00:24:30] Speaker A: Ah. [00:24:32] Speaker B: But as an aunt, I relate to that. I'm like, yeah. [00:24:35] Speaker A: Yes. [00:24:35] Speaker B: Make your own. The girls are, they don't do anything illegal or dangerous or, you know, 14. [00:24:43] Speaker A: They're four. They're 12 and 14. They got it. They're fine. [00:24:46] Speaker B: They listen. At this point, most morals have been established. Like, they're, you know, I was like. [00:24:52] Speaker A: You raise them, they'll be fine. [00:24:55] Speaker B: It's fine. [00:24:56] Speaker A: I'm just here for the chaos. I'm like, I'm like the cool sister who just comes in, stirs it up for four, adds a little hours and then a walk. See you. Have fun with that. Good night. Wow. It's like, oh, my God. Okay. I was like, last night was a chill night. I have truly caused drama because I've. My cousin was telling about. She told me the drama. She's like, we're going to do this and do that. And I was like, okay. As a girl who has both been in high school and who is now 35, 20 years removed, I was like, I just want to give perspective in. My aunt was like, not grown up advice ago. It happens ever so often. Just a little. You gotta, you gotta be chill with it. Okay? You can't. It can't come off as a lecture. [00:25:40] Speaker B: You have to know when to micro dose the. The wise sages, the wiseness. [00:25:44] Speaker A: I'm like, you know, I just feel like, I hear you. Your feelings are valid therapy talk. Like, but, you know, how would this feel if it was you? And she's like, that's true. But she's also being a terrible friend. I go, both things can be true. I go, she could be a terrible friend, but you don't have to respond terribly. [00:26:01] Speaker B: That's true. [00:26:02] Speaker A: Ooh. [00:26:02] Speaker B: That is a learning point, though. That is something that takes a lot of people. [00:26:07] Speaker A: And I'm just trying to instill that now. You know, just, just dig A little hole, Just a little burrow. Just a little. Just a little pin prick. [00:26:16] Speaker B: So it might take years for her to actually act upon it. [00:26:18] Speaker A: It's a seed. [00:26:19] Speaker B: I planted a seed. [00:26:20] Speaker A: It may not bloom for six years. [00:26:22] Speaker B: This is gonna be one of those ones where you plant and like, 13 years later it grows. But, like, they remember it. They remember it. [00:26:28] Speaker A: One time, Bree did tell me that. [00:26:30] Speaker B: I don't have to have to react. [00:26:32] Speaker A: I go, everything exactly. Like, everything does have to be a reaction. Everything doesn't have to be drama. You can simply go to her and just say, this friendship is no longer working. [00:26:43] Speaker B: It's a hard call. I've had to do it, didn't I? [00:26:46] Speaker A: Was she gonna do it? Probably not. They're teenage girls. But I feel like I have done my part as a grown up. [00:26:53] Speaker B: You did. You taught her how to set a boundary, and it's up to her to follow through. You can. [00:26:59] Speaker A: She won't. She won't. [00:27:01] Speaker B: It's okay. [00:27:02] Speaker A: She's a dated girl at a private school. She won't. Oh, and she's a nat. She plays two sports. She's not. [00:27:08] Speaker B: She's not. [00:27:10] Speaker A: And she's tall, and she's gorgeous. And I'm like, what is occurring? Like, you were just five years old and you would only wear princess dresses. But now, this is why I also can't have children. I'm like, I am the, like, epitome of nostalgia. I get. Like, I save birthday cards. I save voicemails. Like, pictures. Like, I am like, such a. Someone's grandmother. I'm like, but look, you used to be so tiny. And so they were showing me. She was showing me pictures from her trip to Florida. And I was like, who? You wore this? My aunt's like, it's fine. [00:27:43] Speaker B: She's 15. [00:27:44] Speaker A: I'm like, not a tube top. She's not a nun. [00:27:49] Speaker B: I was like, she better dress like one. [00:27:52] Speaker A: It's like, excuse me. And me a hypocrite. I played volleyball and she plays volleyball. I'm like, these shorts. She goes, are not as short as the shorts used to wear. I go, I am. I have thicker thighs. It's fine. [00:28:05] Speaker B: Us with our Sophies, we used to roll up to make them even shorter and be like, she's like, I'm tall. [00:28:11] Speaker A: And I was like, whatever. Like, I was like, I think we are missing some fabric on these shorts. But I was like, please write it in. I was like, I just have feelings. And she's like, okay, but she's fine. A tube top showing midriff oh, no. But I did the same thing. Oh, again. Me, hypocrite. Clutch my pearls. [00:28:34] Speaker B: How dare. And then I look at pictures of me in high school and I'm like. [00:28:38] Speaker A: Oh, so that happened. I need to give a trigger warning to everybody. We're sitting on the couch last night and she's going through, like, what she wants to buy, like for summer. Like, they're taking a trip somewhere. She's like, these pants, Juicy Couture. I said, juicy's back. Excuse me. Then it gets worse. Then she's like, I know, I'm sorry, dog. She's going, that she was true religion. She's like, what year is this? And then she has the audacity look me straight in the eye and goes, low rise. No. Yes. No. [00:29:15] Speaker B: So then, of course, no. They're not really coming back, are they? [00:29:18] Speaker A: Me and Trauma Rage. I text my group chat. I go, not low rise jeans coming back. My friend goes, no, no, no, don't worry, it's not the low rise jeans. We knew, like the centimeter long zipper. It's the low rise jeans. Not really. No. But really, you, like, tuck your underneath. You had to pray and hope and bounce around to get those jeans, that little centimeter zipper in. They're like, no, no, no. They're more like mid. Mid height. And I was like, okay. I was like. [00:29:45] Speaker B: Because if you're talking because this style came up, came really high for a while. It was full, like mom Jean. [00:29:52] Speaker A: Now we're talking like, there's back to like mid level. I was like, okay, okay, all right. But then my cousin goes, but skinny jeans are out. I go, I don't care. I will be a skinny jeans girly. You're not. I'm not gonna be told what to wear by a 15 year old whose brain isn't done cooking for another 10 years. You're not gonna bully me. [00:30:07] Speaker B: Your frontal lobe isn't even developed yet. So. [00:30:12] Speaker A: Those are cool. When I was cool. When she ever said Juicy Couture, True religion and low rise jeans. And my. I swear my brain short circuited. I was like, what? I was like, what year? Where am I? [00:30:25] Speaker B: I just immediately. We had a. We went to a friend's house. We had parties that were like Jersey Shore themed parties. And Scott and I like, fully dressed up. I'm gonna have to send you a pic of us. [00:30:36] Speaker A: Like the bump time bump. Oh, I will. Then. Then I'll see. I'll see that party and I'll send you what I. Jersey store was big when I was in college and I Grew up in the northeast. [00:30:47] Speaker B: You're a little older. [00:30:48] Speaker A: Yeah. And so, yes, we. I have two words for you. Animal print. Oh. [00:30:57] Speaker B: Everything was animal print, wasn't it? [00:30:58] Speaker A: Everything. Dresses, shirts. I had a zebra dress. I had two zebra dresses. I had a leopard dress. Zebra. Zebra was my, my animal print of choice. And my best friend, she just got. My best friend from college just got married. And so we had, like, we went through, like, all the pictures before, and we were like, what were we doing? The statement jewelry. Oh. [00:31:20] Speaker B: Oh, oh, yeah. Like the, like the big. It was like a bib of beads. [00:31:27] Speaker A: And then I always, I always laugh at the tick tocks of, like, why were all the millennials and like, business casual going to the club? I go, guys, we don't know. Pencil skirts, freaking blazers. [00:31:38] Speaker B: Three. Three tank tops. [00:31:40] Speaker A: Oh. [00:31:40] Speaker B: Layers in a belt this thick around my. [00:31:43] Speaker A: Size of your hand. [00:31:44] Speaker B: It held nothing up. It held nothing. Nothing. It was a plastic skirt. [00:31:48] Speaker A: We were talking. We were, like, getting ready for her wedding and we were talking and, like, remember when you threw out all your platform pumps? I was like, you guys, it still triggers me. I was moving. In true Brianna fashion. I was moving and threw all of my shoes in a trash bag to move them. And my uncle accidentally thought they were trash. All of my platform pumps. And when I'm talking all, I mean, devastation. I had a leopard pair, a purple player, a blue pair, a hot pink, a black, a blue. Like, I was the queen of platform pumps. Like, wore them around. I'm like, why was I in college wearing skinny jeans and a platform pump, going to class? [00:32:27] Speaker B: I mean, because we look good. [00:32:29] Speaker A: Did we look? Did we. Was that it was a choice of an outfit. This is free. I'm so sad. We thought we look good. I didn't mean to. We did. No, no, no. We, we did the. During the time. That was fashion. Okay? It was. [00:32:46] Speaker B: I mean, yes, it was fashion. And I, I, I remember I was. I think I was late 20s and I remember being so. It was. Yeah. I'm gonna have to find this picture because it is. It was so iconically Jersey Shore. And Scott had the true religion, like, bedazzled shirt on. [00:33:06] Speaker A: And he had, like, party shirts, like. [00:33:08] Speaker B: And he had his hair, like, slicked up, like. [00:33:10] Speaker A: Yes. [00:33:11] Speaker B: That was so bad. [00:33:13] Speaker A: No, it's iconic. The kids. If you weren't there, you weren't there. I'm like, you guys, it was a time. Okay, do I have a Jersey Shore party for my birthday next year? Like, that. [00:33:22] Speaker B: I mean, kinda like, we really want to have Scott and I really Want to have a roaring 20s party before the 20s are over? That's. That's a thing. [00:33:33] Speaker A: Do it. [00:33:34] Speaker B: But, yeah, my. One of. I think the one of the best bachelorette parties I went to was my friend, my best friend, Tamara. We did throwback, like, 80s prom dresses, and we went out, all of us, like, on the. On the town, in these dresses. And they were a look. I'm sure I'm going to pull one up for you. [00:33:56] Speaker A: It was lucky. [00:33:59] Speaker B: I mean, I don't know if it'll show here. [00:34:04] Speaker A: I'm obsessed. [00:34:05] Speaker B: The shiny satin was a lot. [00:34:07] Speaker A: It's the sleeves for me. [00:34:09] Speaker B: This is her and I on the. [00:34:12] Speaker A: It. Stop. This is everything I need. [00:34:15] Speaker B: And we went by, like, our. Our pseudo names of, like, who are you for the night? So I was Portia Pavich for the night. So we all had. [00:34:25] Speaker A: As you should be. I'm confused. [00:34:27] Speaker B: Yes. [00:34:28] Speaker A: So I guess we should finally talk about the topic we're supposed to talk about 34 minutes in the topic we decided on yesterday. Yeah, yeah. [00:34:37] Speaker B: The show notes that have been rewritten 15 times. No, I can talk about this now. [00:34:42] Speaker A: Fine. It is fine. I love it all. [00:34:45] Speaker B: I'm. I'm here for whatever. [00:34:47] Speaker A: I selfishly have been loving that you're. You've joined me on my 75 challenge across state lines. [00:34:56] Speaker B: We are down here. We are in for it. Because I now roped in my bestie co worker, Veronica people. [00:35:02] Speaker A: I was like, yes, please join. And it's been so nice to, like, I've had two fr. Two other friends who have texted me separately who've just been like, I'm gonna send this to you because I need someone to hold me accountable, but I don't want to, like, post it. Like, this is. I'm like, there's no rules, everybody. You truly make your own rules. This is just to hold ourselves accountable, to make more time for ourselves. I go. And that's what I learned on the first iteration of me doing this. Like, vainly. I was. I was into weddings last year, so I was like, okay, I have a year to get it together air quotes. I was like, so let me start now and create some good habits and then go in. So it started off with just, like, trying to, you know, lose weight, look better. And then it just turned into, like, learning how to prioritize time for myself again because I'm so busy as we all are. And it got less about the aesthetic and more just, like, me getting healthy and getting. Building better habits. And, like, I look at, like, the elder women in my Family. Like, one of my grandmothers is 80, and I'm like, I want to be 80. And, like, driving around and, like, still being, like, out with the girls. So, yeah, that was. That was. That's the. That's the reason, I guess, because I have. I also have friends who, like, I just want to lose weight, and I just don't know what to do. I was like, well, build small little buckets. Like, if we try to do it all at once, that's when it gets overwhelming. I go make them small and sustainable. I'm like, but also mix it up of, like, listening to a book, going for a walk, drinking more water, upping your protein. There's. There's no rules here. So I love when you were making the custom ones for your friends, like, take more time to crochet. Do this. And I was like, yes, yes. There's no rules. [00:36:37] Speaker B: My favorite was. I don't know if I had sent you this, but, you know, Veronica's my good friend I work with, and she's joined us, and then her good friend Jade has also joined, and we're kind of all in. And I was making them, and I'm typing it up, and I'm like, you know, trying to help her think of ideas. And she. She really wanted to work on some health goals. And so I was like, okay, you need to relax. But, like, she, you know, she's not a light a candles kind of girl. I was like, okay, so how about each day you just think of, like, five. Five things you're grateful for, and you just mentally think of five things. And she was like, five. And I was like, it's a challenge. [00:37:19] Speaker A: Yeah, push yourselves. And I'm like, you can't think of. [00:37:22] Speaker B: Five things you're grateful. [00:37:24] Speaker A: Some days it was. [00:37:26] Speaker B: It had been a really rough week, to be fair to her about the bus, but it was just such a fun moment of, like, five. I have to think of five. And I'm like, I'm thankful my house didn't get the job. Struck by lightning. Like, it could be anything. I think she wanted to not get. [00:37:41] Speaker A: A flat tire today. My boss did not come into the office. [00:37:44] Speaker B: I am her boss so much. [00:37:46] Speaker A: Not you, not you specifically. I mean, just in general, you know? You know what I mean? [00:37:52] Speaker B: But, yeah, it's. I think she thought it had to be, like, grand things, but it was just such a cute moment. [00:37:56] Speaker A: She was like, five, the audacity of you. I'm like, come on. [00:38:02] Speaker B: But we're all doing it and we're enjoying it, so thank you for spearheading that because it's been very fun. It's. And it was fun to think of things like, you know, you have the list. It was kind of fun to think of other ways I could challenge myself. You know, all of ours are different. Mine, I have. I've been doing duolingo for a while, but it's something that I have. [00:38:23] Speaker A: What language? [00:38:24] Speaker B: Spanish. [00:38:25] Speaker A: What day are we on? [00:38:27] Speaker B: 425. [00:38:30] Speaker A: Please don't ask me to speak because. [00:38:31] Speaker B: I'm not very good at speaking, but I can understand. I've gotten to the point because I work with a lot of. A lot of people who are Puerto Rican, and I've. I definitely have noticed the shift of. And I. They've noticed too, because they'll say something, and instead of sitting there clueless, like, staring off blind, you know, I chuckle or I, like, I'll just nod my head. And they're like, she knows what we're. [00:38:55] Speaker A: Saying now she's cracked the code. Oh, no. [00:38:59] Speaker B: Or I'll respond in English. Like, they'll say something back and forth. And I'm like, yeah, they definitely did that. We need to go follow up. And they're like, so the risk. Understanding the receptive language is there, but it's one of the things I'm working on. Just keep going. [00:39:16] Speaker A: I'm on 226, so catching up. [00:39:19] Speaker B: Are you doing Spanish too? Are you doing. [00:39:20] Speaker A: I'm doing Spanish. I've been taking Spanish since I was like 7, but I wanted to get more confident in it. I tried French for a minute because I have a French friend who speaks French fluently, and he would annoy me, and I was like, no. Like, we went to a French restaurant once, and he just like, spout off in French. I was like, you're annoying. Shut up. But then also because the Olympics were. Were in France last year, and I was like, let me just razzle dazzle. And then I was like, absolutely not. Like, no. My brain is like Spanish. Like, I've already been. Here we are. But okay. Okay. So duolingo is one. [00:39:52] Speaker B: I'm new duolingo. I'm. Hold on a second. I'm pulling mine up. I'm painting each day, which there's no, you know, set. I wish. There's no set amount of painting. It's just little, like, flowers and things. Hold on. [00:40:07] Speaker A: I can grab one. Okay, I'm ready. [00:40:10] Speaker B: So I just do different flower challenges. Little, like. [00:40:15] Speaker A: Cute. As a person who cannot draw, I'm like, this is riveting to me. [00:40:20] Speaker B: I. I just watch Little videos on TikTok of like, how to. And then I. [00:40:24] Speaker A: It's giving Bob Ross because paint my. [00:40:28] Speaker B: Happy little flowers to reduce all my stress. [00:40:33] Speaker A: Again. 5. That's the energy I have as. [00:40:37] Speaker B: That's me as I'm listening to my. [00:40:39] Speaker A: Smutty little book as one should. [00:40:43] Speaker B: And then so duolingo daily. Painting the working out water, healthy eating, read or listen to a book. And then I did meditate, because I do. I just do like to meditate. I like to lay in a corpse pose and zone out for five to 10 minutes while someone tells me how to relax each group of muscles. [00:41:05] Speaker A: Yes. Not corpse pose. Yes. Quick sidebar. I. After my not breakup. Breakup, I decided to do something every year for my birthday. I want to, like, every. I'm like, I'm going to try something new this year. And then the breakup happened and I was like, oh, we need to lean in real quick. I was like, also, the 75 challenge will distract me from my heartbreak. Maybe not a healthy coping mechanism, but here we are. You know, I feel like it's a. [00:41:27] Speaker B: Very healthy coping mechanism. [00:41:29] Speaker A: It's avoidance. It's fine. We're just busying our brain. [00:41:33] Speaker B: All right. Busy your brain busy going to duolingo. [00:41:36] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. So I tried Pilates and I'm like, and for. And for me, if you would have told me two years ago that I would be trying Pilates, like, whatever you are on, please send it on over here because there's no way I would ever. But I think about that, like, doing this challenge the first time, just like, I think I just connected to my body more in a way that I never, like, I was as a person who's dealt with an eating disorder her whole life, I was just always so mean to my body. And like, this challenge wasn't about that. And it was like, just try something new and like, make time for yourself. So I tried pilates. I did it. I did a week. I did a two week trial. I may go back. It's a little expensive. I was like, you guys, it is. It's a little pricey. [00:42:18] Speaker B: I started the ladder app. Oh. And I really. I do really like it. I like it because it's strength training, but a lot of it is you choose what you want. I mean, when you sign in to the app, everyone can have a different experience because you can choose. You choose where you're at, like, fitness wise, but then you also choose what you want to do. And I picked a coach who I really do really love and, and, and a lot. And, like, A good last part of her workouts each day are Pilates based. [00:42:51] Speaker A: And girl, oh, don't I know it. I'm like, my, my abs have never hurt more. I'm like, correct, correct. [00:42:59] Speaker B: She does stuff that I'm like, I have to watch the video for a second. I'm like, I don't think my body works like that. [00:43:05] Speaker A: The woman at the studio is like, girl, what trip I'm gonna give you right now when you do that? I'm gonna do a plank because you want me to put a weight behind my knee, cross it over, bring it up. [00:43:15] Speaker B: She's like doing something. I'm like, I'll just be here in plank. [00:43:19] Speaker A: I'm like, jess, I'll just be over. I'll do a 100. Okay, we'll call it even. I'll just be on my back moving my little arms, my head, my legs in the air. Because, girl, absolutely not helpful. Like, I'm all leg. My torso is like this big. So what do you want from me? [00:43:37] Speaker B: There you go. I, I, I get it. I mean, every, I think everyone just needs to find their own, you know, whatever they connect with. I do a lot of walking. That's something my, my doctor has said. You know, you're, I'm a PCOS girly. [00:43:53] Speaker A: Oh, same. Hi. [00:43:56] Speaker B: You know, they're like, just walk it out. Like, okay, fine. So I, I got a weighted vest. I do really like that because I was thinking, I really felt like when I was just walking that I was. [00:44:06] Speaker A: Like, I'm really not. [00:44:09] Speaker B: I, I mean, I think I had just been conditioned my whole life. I did, I was an athlete through high school and, you know, then I was into running and then we got into CrossFit, and so just. This sounds bad and, but in my mind it was just going for a walk when that's not what it is. Like, that's healthy. That is good. Like, but in my mind it's just going for a walk. So I got a little weighted vest, and now Veronica and I both have little matching weighted vests. [00:44:34] Speaker A: I'm done now. [00:44:36] Speaker B: Are those old ladies walking around neighborhood? [00:44:37] Speaker A: Like, power walking? Power walking around neighborhood with our little weighted. I, I hear you. I was an ankle weights person for a long time because I was like, I just faked. My legs aren't doing what I need them to do. [00:44:48] Speaker B: I tell you what, I got the 12 pound and I've gotten used to it. The first few times I did the 12 pound weighted vest to carrying a baby, I needed recovery. It, it really kicked my butt. Like I said, I've gotten used to it. I've had it now for several months, but I really liked it. And it makes me feel. I think. I think it's more mental for me. It makes me feel like I'm doing sure than just walking. But. But even my doctor said, she's like, girl, you need to walk. Just walk. [00:45:21] Speaker A: Walk for your pcos or just in. [00:45:23] Speaker B: General, mainly for pcos. She's said, you know, you really need to. She said, weights is what I. I need to do weights three to four days a week. But she's like, the days that you're not doing that, you need to walk. You need to get your steps in. She's like, I can't stress this enough. And I was like, all right. [00:45:42] Speaker A: Salute. Absolutely. [00:45:43] Speaker B: Okay. [00:45:44] Speaker A: Because, yeah, I've been doing research, obviously, since getting my diagnosis, but my chaotic trait is I love weights. Like, I'm like, do I go to the gym today? But that's my friend. I were talking about it because she was pco. I said, you just choose cardio is what's going to help you. And I was like, okay. So I recently got into running, and I was like, again, if you would have told me two years ago, three years ago, I'd be a runner. I'm like, no, you have the wrong girl. [00:46:10] Speaker B: Drummer and Pilates. I've been abducted. Someone. Someone come get me. [00:46:15] Speaker A: Is this woman stranger? I'm like, well, that can happen in a couple years. Yeah. Yeah. I've become a walker for sure. And it's cute. It's really cute because again, like I said, I'm single. My family and my cousin, her youngest baby is about to be three, and every morning we go on a walk, baby. I'm like, sure, we ain't going to walk. [00:46:34] Speaker B: I love your little pictures. Walking. [00:46:37] Speaker A: He's my best friend. [00:46:38] Speaker B: I, like, stick the other day, and I'm like, oh, I remember that. [00:46:42] Speaker A: Her walk. [00:46:43] Speaker B: Oh, I love it. [00:46:45] Speaker A: But the thing is, he's in the stroller. He makes me stop to pick up the rocks. [00:46:50] Speaker B: I'm like, and you better get the right one. [00:46:53] Speaker A: The rocks, the sticks, little throwaways. Like, not this one. I'm like, oh, I guess, obviously. [00:47:00] Speaker B: Do you want to get. [00:47:01] Speaker A: I'm like, do you want to get out? He's like, no, I want you to. [00:47:03] Speaker B: Get the right one. [00:47:05] Speaker A: Sorry, apologies. What am I thinking? [00:47:10] Speaker B: Clearly, we are looking at the right rock. [00:47:12] Speaker A: I'm like, what? Not demands. At two years old, this he did. I love. [00:47:17] Speaker B: He's so cute. [00:47:18] Speaker A: But. And then he gets mad on the Days, I'm like, it's too cold. Like, I didn't want to go for this walk, but alas, here I am. [00:47:25] Speaker B: You're the one that requested this child. [00:47:27] Speaker A: I know. Oh, my God. Oh, no. [00:47:30] Speaker B: But yeah, walking and weights are important, so that's why I'm like, I said, I did the. I signed up for the ladder app. I had done Beachbody and other things years past, but I think I like this one so far. This sounds really bad, but I really like that I can hear my music when they're working out. [00:47:46] Speaker A: No. [00:47:46] Speaker B: So they give you instruction and then it's like, no, I'm just gonna let you listen to your tunes. [00:47:52] Speaker A: Yeah, I don't listen to your music. I don't want to hear ocean sounds when I'm trying to lift. Oh. [00:47:56] Speaker B: Or like, I'm, you know, I'm not into the, like, electronic type. [00:48:00] Speaker A: The house. Yes. [00:48:01] Speaker B: I'm not. And so I'm working on, like, I hate it all. I'm gonna work faster just to make it end. [00:48:05] Speaker A: But isn't that. Isn't that like a such a mind thing too? Of like, I. I was like, it. It should not be a punishment. Like, I follow this one woman on Instagram named Bonnie Werrick and Wyrick, and she's like, been like the couch to 5k girly. And she's just been saying, like, it shouldn't be a punishment. You should do because, like, your body. Your body can move. You should be so grateful. And, like, I think of, you know, friends in my life who are, like, bedridden or wheelchair bound. I'm like, I don't ever want to take this for granted. I'm like, we get. We have the privilege of a working body. Like, we should just like. So it's also, like, that is really made me more appreciative of my body this last year of just, like, I get to like, wake up and go now. Do. Do my legs currently hurt? Are my knees shot? Sure. But I am grateful that they move and I get up and down the stairs and could do all the things. Yeah. I have the knees of like a 90 year old. I don't know what has happened. I need to go to the doctor. I'm like, if I need, like, knee surgery, I play volleyball. [00:49:08] Speaker B: I had. I had my ACL replaced a few years back. Since then, running is. I can. I just. It. And even my doctor, my orthopedic surgeon was like, yeah, you know, like, you don't have to. You can just run. He's like, you could row you could walk. You could do boxing. He's like, listing off, and I'm looking, and he was an Olympic runner, and I'm like, you're discouraging me from running, sir. He's like, there are other. He's like, it's not for everyone. And. And to be fair, I don't know that I necessarily have the body type. I'm never going to be, like, a smooth, graceful runner. I feel like I kind of always look like I'm escaping a situation or, you know, like, people are looking around like, why is she running? [00:49:51] Speaker A: Should we. Should we be. [00:49:52] Speaker B: Should we be running? [00:49:53] Speaker A: She's running. [00:49:55] Speaker B: So, yeah, I don't. I mean, I want to get healthy. I think we've talked, you know, about PCOS and insulin resistance and all those things which, you know, I'm thankful for medication and great guidance from my specialists and all that who have gotten me to a healthy point. But now I can't get my medication covered. But, yeah, so basically, I got too healthy to stay on Ozempic. [00:50:17] Speaker A: So what month? [00:50:21] Speaker B: What? Back to where we were circling back. I got too healthy. So now I'm going to join you. And I have my first telehealth coming up the next week with. [00:50:30] Speaker A: With Moochie. Not an ad, but I do love them. [00:50:33] Speaker B: We're not plugging, but they do pay me. [00:50:37] Speaker A: I do get paid by that. Well, but it truly. Yeah, Yeah, I would. Yeah. So I started last August. I was using a clinic that was based only in Texas. I, like, had to find another option because, as you know, I move every four weeks. And they reached out to me. Oh, no. Maybe I found them. Either way, we were DMing and like, hey, here's a person you get connected to. I had a friend. She's actually right behind Rebecca. We talked about it on the podcast. She's been on it for. [00:51:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:51:07] Speaker A: Now three years, and she's lost, like, 70 pounds, 80 pounds. And so I was like, I don't want to lose that much. Like, I just want to feel healthier. So I will say, like, I had tried. I had worked out, consistently, changed my diet, tried phentermine, which I am not a doctor, so I can't tell people what to do. I would just be cautious because it is a stimulant. And as a person who had high blood pressure, the doctor I had at the time, like, that's all he wanted to prescribe me. Men doctors always irked me to no end. I'm like, you know nothing of the female body. Shut up. And then I got paired With a woman of color. Doctor. God bless. And she, like, we're taking you off of this because you're. You have a history because you don't have high blood pressure anymore, but you did makes me nervous. And so she connected me to the clinic because I told them, like, I've been wanting to try this for a long time, but none of my doctors would prescribe or either put in the prior authorization. Every single doctor I had was like, no, but yeah. So when I finally got paired to that doctor, she put me. She connected me to the clinic in Texas. I paid out of pocket. And then I was moving, like, we're only licensed in Texas. And so I was like, okay, I gotta find an option. And then Vochi. And it has been great. Now right now we have the. The semaglutide compounding situation. Right now, like, everything's paused because of life. [00:52:25] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:52:26] Speaker A: But before that, like, super consistent. Everything was fine. And it's not Mochi's fault. They had to switch pharmacies. [00:52:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:52:33] Speaker A: Yeah. We give grace. But I love them because he was a clinician. They offer mental health services. They offer nutrition plans. Like, so it's been great. And you know, I'm like the worst person on this med because I don't. I don't believe in the scale really. So I haven't weighed myself in a while, but I feel better. My clothes are. I had to go buy new jeans last week. [00:52:54] Speaker B: I saw you trying those on. They look. Look at you. [00:52:59] Speaker A: They're my post breakup. I need. They're my pre breakup jeans. I knew where she and I were going to end things, so I had free breakup jeans. [00:53:06] Speaker B: So you needed some fresh. [00:53:07] Speaker A: I needed some juice for the last time I saw her. And I needed her. [00:53:10] Speaker B: So you looked really good. And then you were like, bye. [00:53:13] Speaker A: Yeah. Also if you're. [00:53:14] Speaker B: Remember this. [00:53:15] Speaker A: Sorry for listening to this. I love you, but we know it was the choice to make. She may not listen, but if she does, you know, I just wanted to know. I love you and I miss you, but I know life. But yeah. So I got some new jeans. Not to cry. I got some new jeans. She got new jeans. [00:53:31] Speaker B: She's looking good. [00:53:33] Speaker A: Thank you. Thank you. I saw you. Thank you. I'm just trying to be the hottest version of myself again. Summer is coming. I am single. I may start dating men again. [00:53:47] Speaker B: Oh. [00:53:47] Speaker A: Which causes duress in my life. [00:53:49] Speaker B: You're making that choice. [00:53:51] Speaker A: Thank you. [00:53:52] Speaker B: Said by a woman who is married to a man. [00:53:55] Speaker A: I think being. Being with a man is a choice. You cannot convince Me of differently. But yes. [00:54:02] Speaker B: I mean, yeah. I like we've been. [00:54:04] Speaker A: Not the speechlessness. I. [00:54:08] Speaker B: I, I am very lucky to have a wonderful man. [00:54:12] Speaker A: We know you've hit the jackpot with this man. [00:54:15] Speaker B: If things were to happen every day. [00:54:20] Speaker A: Something happens every day. [00:54:22] Speaker B: I can't say I would try again. [00:54:27] Speaker A: Yeah. Yes. [00:54:31] Speaker B: I would be very open to all the possibilities of life. [00:54:34] Speaker A: That's literally one of my best friend said too. She's married with a baby to, with a man. She's like, I love Mario so much. I'm grateful that we have this beautiful, healthy baby. She's like, but if anything happened to him, I'm going back to women and I'm never thinking about a man again. [00:54:46] Speaker B: There we go. [00:54:47] Speaker A: I was like, yeah. I was like, I don't want to date men. I just want. This is, I understand that this is going to be toxic. Everybody, you gotta give me some grace. It's, I just feel like it is my job as a person who dates all genders to remind men that they aren't the only option. And I feel like the reason why men act the way they do is because they're not told to shut up enough. And so I feel like that is now my job to do that as I date men to make. I actually really don't care about your opinion and I want you to know that from me. [00:55:19] Speaker B: Directly from the source. [00:55:20] Speaker A: Directly from me. [00:55:22] Speaker B: Yeah. I mean I like that you're keeping your options open. I'm not proud of you for that. Okay. [00:55:32] Speaker A: I. [00:55:34] Speaker B: Huh. [00:55:37] Speaker A: Is the right answer. [00:55:38] Speaker B: Can we do like a follow up call in a, in like a month or two, see how this is going? [00:55:41] Speaker A: Oh, I can call you like a week. Because I'm already annoyed. Okay. Because I'm like already annoyed. [00:55:46] Speaker B: I just need to know because most of my friends that are out in the dating system are, are women seeking, you know, CIS men and, and. [00:55:57] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:55:58] Speaker B: I'm Scott's favorite thing to do is to go out with them and we go out and he, he, he like sends all the men the messages on. [00:56:05] Speaker A: It is what an icon. [00:56:07] Speaker B: Like just the most unhinged stuff. [00:56:10] Speaker A: Yes. Whenever I'm on my phone, she swipes for me and I'm like no. She's like, just do it for the plot. I'm like, no, absolutely. I'm not gonna. Oh I, I need screenshots. Thank you so much. [00:56:23] Speaker B: I will send them because I have them from our group chat of when my, my co worker is. She's a co worker of mine. [00:56:31] Speaker A: Technically an employee. No, no, no. [00:56:34] Speaker B: This is that our. Our company Christmas dinner. We run a very, you know, it's a very. We're very professional. Obviously, it's just the four of us. Let's just be honest. [00:56:45] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:56:45] Speaker B: Tight knit, a little close community. And yeah. Scott was like, can I. Can I see your app? And she was like, have a blast. [00:56:55] Speaker A: It's the. It's the seven circles of hell. Like, my friend Shelby and I talk all the time. Like, no, no. This is where dreams go to die. [00:57:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:57:02] Speaker A: There. I'm back on the apps, which I hate, but I'm using them for research purposes. I'm like, I don't take any of this seriously. I know every person I've ever dated I've met in the wild. So I'm like, this is just a means to an end. I'm bored. I need a serotonin hit most of the time. [00:57:15] Speaker B: There you go. [00:57:16] Speaker A: It's for my ego. You know, put on the hot photos, let the people gawk. You know, life. [00:57:20] Speaker B: Yes. No caption. Just a photo. Just to make a. I have a bio. [00:57:24] Speaker A: Because I have a bio. Because I'm always like, I feel like people who don't put a biological. Oh, just saying they're going to be hot forever and that's all they offer. And I'm like, yes. Like, who are you as a person? No. [00:57:35] Speaker B: Nothing to add, Nothing to say. [00:57:36] Speaker A: Nothing. [00:57:36] Speaker B: Also no words. [00:57:38] Speaker A: Not. Not a thought in your brain. My friends hate me on the apps. Like, they're like, I am the quickest. Like, left, left, left. Like, you haven't even seen. Like, I can tell you if I think a person's attractive. That's not the only thing I look for in my 30 second scan. What photos have you put up? What's your political affiliation? And like, all these other things, I'm like, if I see one more Apolitical. What do you mean, apolitical? You have no thoughts about politics. [00:58:07] Speaker B: None. Not a thought in that brain. [00:58:09] Speaker A: Not. I don't. If you are moderate conservative, if you can defend air quotes to me while you are. You're never going to convince me. But if you could tell yourself as to why you are great. Apolitical. And nothing. Nothing butters my toast more than when someone. When someone is apolitical. Yes. Butters my toast. Literally. Nothing more. My friend says, frost her. Frosts her cupcake. And I was like, that's iconic. Nothing excites me more than when someone is apolitical but then wants to match with me. And it might. You hate me. No. My profile. Clearly the most Leftist. Leftist to ever left like the one sis. [00:58:51] Speaker B: That's. That's my response. Nope. [00:58:52] Speaker A: I'm like, are you aware of the current environment we live in? But then you swipe on me and it clearly says on my profile, like, black, queer. Like, you will never have to guess anything about me. [00:59:04] Speaker B: I'm not hiding it. [00:59:05] Speaker A: You have the audacity of Oprah's. During Oprah's reign, Beyonce's Internet of 2025. To be apolitical and try to match with me. [00:59:16] Speaker B: Sit down, son. Sit down. [00:59:20] Speaker A: Absolutely not. So swiped on a guy yesterday who only had two photos. This was my fault. I have a rule of at least three photos and a profile. [00:59:30] Speaker B: Were they quality photos? Were they, like, really good? Calm down. [00:59:35] Speaker A: They were fine. [00:59:36] Speaker B: The dogs. Not. Not Brie. [00:59:37] Speaker A: No, no, no. They were fine. This man. Let me just read it to you. Oh. Oh, yeah. Because I just have to remember my sometime that I'm not insane. We matched him. Hey. With like, seven Y's. [00:59:54] Speaker B: Hey, me. [00:59:57] Speaker A: Hi. How was your week? It was great. How about you? I'm like, I can't complain. He goes, yep, you shouldn't. Lol. What's your free time look like? I want to hang. I don't know you. You're a stranger. What do you mean you want to hang out? [01:00:12] Speaker B: Want to hang. [01:00:15] Speaker A: Photo 1. Well, he's handsome. Photo 2. This is my own fault. [01:00:23] Speaker B: And I'm like, you did this to yourself. [01:00:25] Speaker A: I did. And I'm probably just gonna unmatch because I don't. I have nothing else to say to you because. [01:00:32] Speaker B: No, I don't want to hang. [01:00:34] Speaker A: You are a stranger again. My friends also hate me as a true crime. Girly. I trust no one. [01:00:40] Speaker B: Right? [01:00:41] Speaker A: Everybody's in a cult. Everyone's trying to kidnap me. Everyone's a serial killer. [01:00:44] Speaker B: The only way this could possibly get worse is if he, I don't know, had a. Had a minivan. Like, drove up in a minivan that said, like, free candy on this. Like, no windows. No windows. I just want to hang. [01:00:56] Speaker A: I want to hang. No. So don't be a creep, everybody. Like, this is. This is life. [01:01:04] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh. [01:01:05] Speaker A: I don't know. We've talked about a bajillion things today, which. This was just a friend. Catch up, everybody. I'm. Yeah. [01:01:11] Speaker B: Thanks for coming on the ride. [01:01:12] Speaker A: This is just a FaceTime between. [01:01:14] Speaker B: Between two people who have actually never met. [01:01:17] Speaker A: Never met. [01:01:18] Speaker B: This is the result of Internet stalking on one person. [01:01:22] Speaker A: Internet pals, both Pisces. This is also. This is so Pisces just Like, we're just gonna talk for four hours and just see what happens. [01:01:30] Speaker B: I started following you because you did, like, a live thing. And I was like, oh, I love her energy. [01:01:35] Speaker A: Sweet Charles. [01:01:37] Speaker B: Yeah, he did. He did like a. Charlie. Charlie Capen did a. Oh, my gosh. How many years ago was that? [01:01:47] Speaker A: That was 22. [01:01:50] Speaker B: Three years ago. Oh, my gosh. It was three years ago. [01:01:52] Speaker A: Yeah. Minute. One minute ago. [01:01:57] Speaker B: Yeah, you did a really. A really great, you know, chat with him. And I was like, oh, I gotta love her energy. And then I started following you. [01:02:04] Speaker A: Cherub. He's a gem. I have to call him. His birthday's coming up next month. He's such a Taurus. Anyway. [01:02:16] Speaker B: My husband actually. Wait, when is his birthday? His birthday is really close to my. I think it's just. My planner is not near. My husband's is May 3rd, and that's why. Okay. [01:02:29] Speaker A: Yeah, it's very soon. [01:02:31] Speaker B: Taurus. It's. It's. [01:02:34] Speaker A: Dang Earth signs. [01:02:36] Speaker B: Taurus men. Energy. [01:02:39] Speaker A: Well, at the end of every episode, we're gonna wrap it up because I've had you for an hour and you have a class today and you need to get ready. [01:02:47] Speaker B: I have Charlie's class today. [01:02:52] Speaker A: That man. It's. [01:02:54] Speaker B: It's. Yeah, it's. It's a ghost hunting class with him and Amy. He does like, you know, his little new, little company he has. Well, it's probably not new anymore. It's been around for a while. Momentous. His little thing. He does. Yeah. [01:03:06] Speaker A: The nerds unite, baby. The nerds unite. [01:03:09] Speaker B: I'm just a big nerd. [01:03:10] Speaker A: We can't help it. [01:03:11] Speaker B: I love it. [01:03:12] Speaker A: I know somebody else said, like, you're a nerd. I'm like, proudly. [01:03:15] Speaker B: Yes. Yes, I am proudly. [01:03:19] Speaker A: Thank you for realizing that I am above you because I am a nerd and I love it. [01:03:24] Speaker B: I don't. [01:03:24] Speaker A: I think. [01:03:24] Speaker B: I don't think I present strong nerd. And my neighbors are catching on because one time we were out front and we'd been, you know, kind of sitting in our cul de sac drinking, and one of them was like, oh, he likes to, like, dare people to do things. And he was like, I'm going to give $50 to someone if they can guess what show this song like, like was the theme song for. And he started playing it, and I was like, oh, no, I'm a nerd. [01:03:51] Speaker A: Because I knew immediately. I was like, angel. A classic, though. [01:03:55] Speaker B: And he, like, he was like, how. [01:03:58] Speaker A: Did you know that? [01:03:59] Speaker B: And I told him. I was like, I'm a nerd. I know you guys don't know that about me. [01:04:06] Speaker A: It's opposed to like torrential downpour. I'm like, do I just go watch angel today? [01:04:09] Speaker B: Oh, I hope so. You should do that. [01:04:11] Speaker A: I've been re watching Charmed, which is one of my comfort shows. Charmed. [01:04:17] Speaker B: I haven't, I haven't seen much of Charmed. I know. I. I know. And, and it's. I think it's. It's kind of a thing because I've been told by a couple people I work with that I'm very similar to. I think, I think it's the oldest. [01:04:31] Speaker A: Sister, Prue or Piper. [01:04:35] Speaker B: I don't know. [01:04:36] Speaker A: It depends. No spoilers. But Pru eventually dies and so Piper becomes technically the older sister and you have, you have both of their energies. I'm like, I don't know. [01:04:50] Speaker B: My, my co worker, Mr. Mr. G and Veronica are both like. You are. You are this person. [01:04:58] Speaker A: This person. [01:04:59] Speaker B: Yeah. Piper. Piper. [01:05:03] Speaker A: You do have Piper energy. That's like. We need to be very specific when they say older sister. Well, I think you should watch it in all. In all your spare time in copious amounts. In your copious amounts of spare time. Add it to your challenge. They're only. Are they 30 or hour long episode? [01:05:21] Speaker B: They're not that long. They're only like 30 minutes, maybe 40 because. [01:05:25] Speaker A: So that's my challenge for you. Start watching Charmed. It's great. It's like late 90s, early 2000s, I think. [01:05:33] Speaker B: I've seen the first season and it's not that I didn't like it. I think I just kind of like, you know, you just fell off. Fell off. [01:05:39] Speaker A: It's one of my comfort shows. My ex boyfriend was like, this is the most random comfort show. I was like, I watched it religiously. [01:05:46] Speaker B: I don't feel like it's that random. [01:05:48] Speaker A: That's what I said. I like people. My in between. My best friend Charlie. Not that Charlie, a different Charlie, other Charlie. His. His favorite show is Buffy. And I. When he first told me, I was like, so random. He goes, but is it like we're kids of the 90s? It's not. I'm like, but I never would have. [01:06:02] Speaker B: Like our whole generation, it's those. It's Buffy, Angel, Charmed, One Tree Hill. Oh, you know, that is my favorite Dawson's Creek crowd. [01:06:12] Speaker A: Never watched Austin's. [01:06:13] Speaker B: I've never watched Austin's either. So I'll be made Dr. Odyssey though. So. [01:06:18] Speaker A: So. Oh, Shelby. Her favorite show is Gilmore Girls. My best friend Shelby. I finally watched that during the pandemic we lived together. I. She made me watch it with her, and I was like, I don't hate this. [01:06:30] Speaker B: I. [01:06:30] Speaker A: As a girl from Connecticut, I was like, it's not exactly like this. But it is. [01:06:34] Speaker B: You're so judgy with it. I'm just like, oh, my gosh. That's what it's like every day. [01:06:38] Speaker A: I'm like, no, no, Everybody. No, no. [01:06:41] Speaker B: I love that so much. [01:06:42] Speaker A: I. Yeah. [01:06:44] Speaker B: So I feel like that's not a random show. That's a very generationally appropriate comfort show. [01:06:49] Speaker A: Thank you. They're like, it's not like a Disney show. I was like, no, guys, I was a grown up. I was watching Charmed. [01:06:55] Speaker B: I mean, yeah, if you were like, whatever. What was the one, like, the little kids he shows on Disney. If you're like, that's my comfort show, I'd be like, we gotta talk. [01:07:03] Speaker A: Oh, weird little odd. [01:07:05] Speaker B: Spoke to anyone else about that? [01:07:07] Speaker A: No. But then, like, all the seat. When all the CW superheroes came out, like the Flash, I could watch that. I've watched that. I have not watched season nine yet because I'm not ready for it to be over. [01:07:18] Speaker B: I. I am big into all the superhero. Marvel comic universe. [01:07:22] Speaker A: Oh. [01:07:23] Speaker B: Yep. [01:07:25] Speaker A: Now, if we want to talk. If we want to talk, nerd. That's. That's the next. [01:07:29] Speaker B: That's when you know, that's when you. [01:07:31] Speaker A: I. I was just the other day, I was like, I'm gonna make breakfast and put. Just put on Moon Night. I rewatched the first episode. I was like, I forgot how good this show is. So good. Like, it's so good. [01:07:43] Speaker B: You did one of those things where it's like, you put it on and you're supposed to be cleaning, but you're literally just standing in the kitchen watching it. [01:07:49] Speaker A: Yeah, Yeah. I did not move. I was, like, standing. Just mouth open. Like, I haven't seen already. Just. [01:07:55] Speaker B: I hate it when I do that. I'm like, I'm gonna put this on. I'm gonna be so productive. [01:07:58] Speaker A: No, no, ma'. Am. The lies we tell ourselves. Because if that is, if you have not watched Moon Night, you don't have to be a comic book person. It is a good standalone piece of production. Like, Moon Knight was so good. [01:08:15] Speaker B: It is good. [01:08:16] Speaker A: And then also, what's the other one? The Invasion one they just did on Marvel? [01:08:23] Speaker B: The Invasion one? [01:08:24] Speaker A: Yes. Oh. Oh, please. [01:08:27] Speaker B: Thunderbolts. [01:08:28] Speaker A: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Hold on. [01:08:32] Speaker B: I'm. I'm a daredevil girly, so I'm in my Daredevil, Marvel re birth era. [01:08:37] Speaker A: Right now it's Secret Invasion. It's one season. It's so good. It's a Marvel show. It follows mostly I'm making note of that Nick Fury, so Samuel L. Jackson's character. But it's about the. Did you watch Captain Marvel? [01:08:56] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:08:56] Speaker A: It follows the aliens from that and their overlap. It is so freaking good. [01:09:05] Speaker B: How did that miss my radar? [01:09:06] Speaker A: I'm talking about it because I was not here nerding out about it with you See, it's so good. But I. My chaotic thing is I. I'm not a week to week person and that was a week to week show. So like I said watch she Hulk because it was week to week and I was like, I refuse. So that. Also I have such a long list of shows. I need to go. [01:09:24] Speaker B: Yeah, me too. My friend wants me to watch Yellowstone and I do want to watch it, but. But it's. [01:09:30] Speaker A: It's. It's hefty. It's a hefty choice. It's also. [01:09:32] Speaker B: There are certain shows, like I typically watch TV right before bed and I. [01:09:35] Speaker A: Have to be very mindful on a before bed show. [01:09:38] Speaker B: And that. Exactly that. She's like, hey, just trigger warnings. Like all of them awful. [01:09:44] Speaker A: And. [01:09:45] Speaker B: And so I have to be very mindful about what I watch before. [01:09:49] Speaker A: If it's any consolation, before I go see these, I do that with my books. Like I am a thriller book person, but I just finished. I just read a book at the beginning of the year. It will. It's one of. It's by one of my favorite authors. It's called She's Not Sorry by Mary Kabika. And she writes books from like different perspectives and which is what I really love. I was on like the last couple chapters of this book sweating in my bed. My feet were sweating because it was like wrapping up and I had to. [01:10:15] Speaker B: We were talking about this. We were talking about the heart rate. [01:10:18] Speaker A: I had to like move my hand down so I like, don't read ahead. Like, but I was just like sweating. So when I was seeing this girl, she's like, just bring it to the gym. Like read it while you walk. Like maybe that'll like, you will stroke out, ma'. Am. Of course I bring it with the next day, the next chapter. So chill. I'm like, I wasted this work. Like, it wasn't a waste, but I was pissed because I read that really calm chapter on the treadmill. Then I get home that night scared again. I'm like, what is occurring, Mary? It was Such a. It was such a good book. I made my best friend Carrie read it. She like, oh my God. I was like, girl, I told you I'm. [01:10:59] Speaker B: I've just been roped into the acotar. You and your. [01:11:04] Speaker A: Your fantasy and smut books fantasy. [01:11:07] Speaker B: And I, I think I showed you. I don't know if I did, but I was joking with a friend because I was working out yesterday and my heart rate got all the way up to 112 because my heart rate is, is low. It's usually chilling in the 50s and, and just relaxing just at work. Just like chairs are flying and I'm like, it's fine. I'm over here existing moderately and on my way into work. I think I was sharing with you because you vote, like, read for 30 minutes to relax. And I was like, we are not reading the same books. Because my heart rate got up to 109 while driving, listening to this book. My way to work. [01:11:53] Speaker A: Girl, I told you my feet were sweating. So I was like, who. Who am I? What do I know? I got a new book by another one of my favorite authors, Alice Feeney, and it's rock. It's called Rock Paper Scissors. Told from two perspectives, a husband and a wife who, like, this is like the last trip to like, try to save their marriage, but one of them kills the other. Yes. [01:12:14] Speaker B: See, I. I like books like that. [01:12:16] Speaker A: All you know is like, one of them does not make it back. [01:12:17] Speaker B: One of you, like, and throughout the whole thing, you're like, it's gonna be. [01:12:22] Speaker A: No, no. Maybe you think you know my. So I know. [01:12:28] Speaker B: I love it. Well, let me know how that one goes. I'll add it to my ever growing tbr. [01:12:34] Speaker A: I'm like, do I. That's why I'm like, do I need to go and walk or do I want to go to the. Go to the gym and walk the treadmill? But I might just go. This is, this is my daily occurrence. Like before it rains, I just go enjoy a nice neighborhood walk before I can't walk. It's supposed to rain for the next two days. [01:12:51] Speaker B: Get your workout in. [01:12:52] Speaker A: I know, but I'm like, do I want to go to the gym and walk or do I want to walk the neighborhood? Because right now I'm re listening to Untamed by Glennon Doyle. [01:13:01] Speaker B: Well, I guess what's the, like, I. I don't have a gym. We have a house, you know, gym situation we just made during the pandemic. We were like, never mind. We'll just put one in here. So we have, you know, a setup, but we don't have a treadmill or anything. So if I walk, I. I have. [01:13:18] Speaker A: To venture get a walking pad. [01:13:22] Speaker B: I have a history of falling off treadmills. [01:13:26] Speaker A: Okay. [01:13:27] Speaker B: My. My very close friends joke that like whenever they see those reels come up, they pay really close attention because they're convinced that there has to be out there in the wild video of me falling off the multiple treadmills that I have. [01:13:40] Speaker A: Well, now we know launched off of not for you. So the two options are if I walk, I can listen to the book. I'm listening to 10 minutes a day is Untamed and then I'll just enjoy the rest of my walk. But if I go to the gym, I can listen to Untamed and then also start and continue reading my other book. But I have no plans today. So my go walk the neighborhood and then come back take a shower and just read my book. [01:14:03] Speaker B: I like that option. [01:14:05] Speaker A: Thank you. [01:14:06] Speaker B: Today is my latter day, so I'm doing ladder. Oh. [01:14:08] Speaker A: I also need everyone to read Untamed. Read a listen to it. It. This is. This is the book that changed my life. Like I am not being hyperbolic. This book in Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. [01:14:18] Speaker B: I feel like you're giving me a lot of homework. But. [01:14:20] Speaker A: And I would like it by the end of the year. [01:14:22] Speaker B: Okay. [01:14:23] Speaker A: You have ma'. [01:14:24] Speaker B: Am. [01:14:24] Speaker A: You have so much. Charmed. Charmed. [01:14:26] Speaker B: And. [01:14:28] Speaker A: And yes. And Year of Yes. You have to read it. Year of yes by Shonda Rhymes and Shonda Rhines. [01:14:33] Speaker B: But I like writing rhymes is amazing. [01:14:35] Speaker A: You can also listen to it. I'm not one of those people. You can listen to it or you can read it. [01:14:39] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:14:42] Speaker A: Glennon reads hers Untamed. Just. I'm really listening to it right now because it's. I was again. The things ended with the woman I was seeing and I want her to read it because it was just like there's a lot of overlap I feel. [01:14:55] Speaker B: Like between manifest that out into the universe. [01:14:57] Speaker A: I'm probably going to send it to her for a birthday because I have her address. Big. Hi. I know we're not talking, but this is. [01:15:04] Speaker B: But here's a book you should read. [01:15:05] Speaker A: It's. She got me books for my birthday. She like. I think you'd would really like this. I'm like, yes, you know I love to read. I'm a nerd. What do you want from me? [01:15:12] Speaker B: We like what we like. [01:15:14] Speaker A: Any hoodle. [01:15:16] Speaker B: Ready to wrap this up? [01:15:17] Speaker A: Finally. Gosh. [01:15:20] Speaker B: Sorry everyone. [01:15:20] Speaker A: Sorry. Everybody, you're just, you've just been hanging with me and Heather. I'm not, so actually I'm not. Sorry. You're welcome. This is a beautiful way to start a Saturday morning. It has, as you know, at the end of every episode I like to ask a sort of palate cleanser wrap up question. It's a two parter, so you get to decide what is the best advice you've ever been given or what is a piece of advice you would give to your younger self. Did you write down your answers? [01:15:48] Speaker B: Yeah, you know, Pisces nerd got notes printed out. [01:15:55] Speaker A: Not printed. [01:15:56] Speaker B: Oh no, not printed and highlighted. Okay, I'm sorry. Don't postpone joy is what I would recommend. I was on a girls trip to Asheville and we stopped at a place called Lori's and it is no longer open but it was named after Lori Masterson and her life motto. And she had stickers in the shop, in the store. It was like a little kind of deli market and we had stickers that said don't postpone joy. And it kind of became like the theme of my, of our friend group of just don't postpone joy. Lori led an amazing life and she was a huge inspiration to others battling cancer. And this is still the message I live by. And I try to remind myself daily, you know, going back to those five things, you know, we only get one shot on this rock, so make it count. Don't postpone joy. Do the silly thing. Do the thing that makes you happy and smile. Share your joy. Love the little things. Be the nerd. Be who whomever you want to be. But don't postpone joy. [01:17:05] Speaker A: That's it for this week's episode of the Tea with Bri. Be sure to follow the podcast on Instagram at the Tea with Bri. Send me an email at the tea with bri Gmail.com or visit the website thet bre podcast.com youm can find me your host Brianna Jenkins on Instagram at Brianna Jenkins. Don't forget to rate, review and follow on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. A special thanks to Mama Juke for our theme music and I will catch you next time. Bye.