Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Speaker A: Tea with Bre I'm trying to live my life I just need space to grow I'm just trying to make it right these people won't let me go I'm just trying to live my life I just need space to grow I'm just trying to make it right these people won't let me go Let me grow, let me go, Let me grow, let me go they should know, they should know they should know, they should know I'm just trying to live my life I just need space to grow I'm just trying to make it right.
[00:00:54] Speaker B: Welcome to the Tea with Bri. I'm your host, Bri. Thanks for listening. The Tea with Bre podcast is focused on deep, honest and vulnerable conversation. Each week I sit down with a different guest in order to have those conversations.
Every week we'll start my guest's bio, an intro into how we know each other, and then we'll go into a deep dive conversation about whatever topic they brought to me that week.
Welcome back to another episode of Breeze Tea, which is my version of the solo Thursday episode where I share some personal updates, answer questions, offer advice, things like that. If you want to send a question, you can send me a question@thete with bri Gmail.com. hi.
Hello. I am back. As you all know, I love a random hiatus and we have been on hiatus since April.
April.
So it's been a smooth four months. Hi everyone. We have been surviving.
There's so much to catch you up on. There's so much to talk about, so let's just dive in.
I think the first thing is I am unemployed. Well, what I've been calling fun employed. I left my job that I started in October for a number of reasons and I've been fun employed since the beginning of June and it has been delay. Oh, that's a lie. Beginning of July. I've been a fun employee since the beginning of the July of July and it's been a time I've been really lucky to like do some influencer marketing stuff. So like that has supplemented the income. I started doing some consulting for a friend of mine who has her own business.
I am interviewing for some full time jobs and actually got an offer for a job last week that I declined only because I'm interviewing with two other places that I want to see through first before making a decision.
And so I had to let that other job go. It was also an hour away.
So it would have been like an hour drive to and from every day, Monday through Friday, thinking about like the winter and everything. And I was like, I just, it just, it wasn't, it wasn't a hell yes, so it was a no. And so we let that go and made space for other things.
There's two, like I said, there's two jobs right now and then there's a couple remote jobs that I'm still applying for. And my friend has also asked if I would consider consulting with her full time. So there's a lot of different options, different things on the plate. So we're just leaning in to the not knowing and trusting our gut and that everything has always worked out and we're going to be fine.
So that's like work stuff that I'm not gonna. I could go into the full reasons why I left my last job, but don't really need to.
Yeah, it just wasn't what I. What I thought it would be. So we left. So that's work stuff.
I went on a lot of trips this summer which I have not posted about, but I plan to.
Me and one of my best friends, Shelby went to Portland, Maine, then down to County Bunkport, Maine and then went to Newport, Rhode Island.
And so we were there.
And so we were there for. We did a week long trip so about two threeish days in both Portland and Newport and did just one day in Kennebunkport. And it was the best and so healing. And I've been saying that like my summer was spent like in true Pisces fashion near the water, near the beach because I needed to heal, which we'll talk about in a moment.
And so yeah, it's been really beautiful to like just travel. So yeah, I did that. And then I went to Delray, Florida for Rebecca, who was on the podcast, her bachelorette. So went to Delray for about four days with 15 other women and our friend Anthony and it was great. We had a lovely time in Florida. I'm currently peeling because I've never had a. I guess it's a sunburn. I've never had a sunburn. This is my first time ever peeling like this in my life. But I was like in the pool the whole time I was there. So your girl was thriving.
And also like it's so interesting. We were in Florida last year for our friend Gabby's bachelorette. We went to Fort Lauderdale last summer and just to see how.
To see how my body has changed in the last year and also to know and feel how my relationship with my body has changed in the last year has been like a really beautiful gift. I'll talk about that in a minute.
The body changing stuff is going to be a little bit more long.
I then went to New York to hang out with Bri who is finally going to be a podcast guest.
So saw Bri. We were Bri united as we call it. I went and saw my friend Peachy and her son who used to live in Austin. Every time I'm in New York I'll make time for them. My childhood best friend Freddy met a group of fantastic people at Peachy's house and just had like a really nice dinner.
Well all my friend just got back from Africa and saw him in town so it was just like a great reunion in New York. And I'm fighting the urge and the itch to move to New York right now.
The biggest thing being the city tax of like to what I understand like you pay a city tax for living in New York and you pay New York tax and the cost of everything in New York just really is not the vibe right now. But I miss living in a city so I think I'm on the city search again. I'm trying to stay in the Northeast but I'm like Boston's expensive.
I don't think I'd want to live like Hartford, Connecticut.
So you know, we're just, we're just looking. The goal is to like be in can be in the tri state area for the next couple of years and then maybe move back to like a major city that's like no more than like a three hour plane ride so I could be close to family still in case some things come up.
And also cuz I hate driving which is so funny cuz I love a road trip but I hate driving now as I'm. As I'm getting older it's like public transportation is really important to me. I need someone that's a good food scene, all the things you know. So this is just if you have any suggestions of cities.
I'm going to LA at the end of the September. I'm in one of my really good friends weddings. I've never been to California so if you have any California wrecks, I don't know how long I'm going yet. I may go for maybe two or three days but then I'm going to Chicago right after like on the flight home from LA back to Connecticut, I'm going to stop in Chicago and see my high school best friend and his husband. So the same best friend that got me moved to Austin when I was 26 and he's been trying to get me to Chicago for years, so I'm gonna visit them and another friend who's moving there. And so I'm just, like, vibing. I'm just in my hot on era of travel.
I think I've finally decided that I don't want kids. At least that's, like, the vibe today. It has been, like, pretty much this whole year.
Oh, I went to Austin in May. Holy crap. I went to Austin back in May, and it was like. Went for a friend's wedding and, like, saw all of my people and I miss them, but I don't know if I could ever live in Texas again.
And so, yeah, sorry all over the place, but just trying to get y' all caught up and understand why I haven't recorded for four months and, you know, try. Currently trying to schedule a lot of recordings. I have the next four episodes already recorded, so we're at least good through, like, September.
And some really fantastic guests are coming up. My friend Heather's coming on. My friend Bri's coming on, and then two people who were Internet strangers who just asked to join Nikki and jam. And so those will be really fun. I'm, like, super excited about those. I've already recorded all those as I record this one today, so that makes me really excited.
Oh, talked about body stuff. So trigger warning if you, like, are dealing with body stuff or eating disorder recovery.
Just wanted to, like, give that caveat.
I have been on a GLP1 since last August, early September.
With it, I've probably. I think I've lost about 30 to 40 pounds on the GLP1. And it has truly changed my life. And it's been really interesting. The last couple. Last month or so, I was a part of a study, like, a study with a student who's at UT University of Texas, and a woman who was writing an article. She's a doctor. She works for the New York Liberty, if I remember correctly, and another friend who works for a major news magazine.
And I've just been talking about my experiences on a GLP1 and the controversy. Controversy in, you know, the. The responses I've had. I've. I personally have had nothing but, like, positive responses and interactions with folks.
But obviously that's like, the stuff you read online of, like, people who are judgy about it and wondering, you know, kind of, like talking shit about people who are on it.
But for me, my experience as a person who's been dealing with. Dealing with an eating disorder since she was 12, this has truly helped my life in so many ways. I was so obsessive with, like, how I looked and what I weighed and all these things. And for me, this g. This medication has really helped me in my relationship with my body and with food again, because for so long I was afraid to eat and enjoy food because I was afraid of gaining weight. But as a person who comes from a family who's. And friends, families who are really big about food and celebrating and all the things, I just, like, I was missing out on so much. And so this has really helped me with, like, my body cues that I was ignoring or, like, really understanding when I'm actually hungry and being able to eat things and not feel worried about it. And so. And like, feeling confident in my body and with that sounds like my mental health too. So I don't know. As a person who was truly tried every diet and every exercise and was considering weight loss surgery at one time, this has truly changed it for me. And so we're. We're doing great. And also, as you all know, I really don't care about the opinions of other people.
And so we're just. We're truly just thriving. And I'm, like, in such a good place, even unemployed, even as I figure out what's next, even as I'm still living with family, even as things are kind of up in the air, even as the world is literally on fire, even as I'm reading politics every day, even as our.
As the 47th president is like just being the 47th president, you know, I'm always trying to lean into joy as an act of revolution, an act of resistance. And so that's where I am now to talk about the elephant in the room. And the big reason why I didn't record for four months is I was going. Going through a breakup. Ish, complicated situation.
And I don't want to speak too much at a turn. This was.
It's not only me. This is also somebody else's story that they are navigating.
But this person and I had decided not to talk for a while. We recently reconnected as they're going through another big shift in their life.
And I've just been leaning into, like, nothing is promised. Life is short. And I recently read something that's like, you get 80 summers in your lifetime if you're lucky.
And so when we reconnected and I knew, like, the time we had together would be short because again, they're going through their own stuff, I was like, yeah, jump jumping both feet into the pool. They're gonna listen to this. And that's why I'm like, trying to be as detailed yet vague as possible.
But yeah, I love them deeply. I wish them well. And it is. I knew it would be hurtful, like painful. Like we would. We. We talk about it often of, like, was this wise to, you know, focus on enjoying the time that we have together? And I have no regrets and I'm really glad we did. And I don't know what the future holds. If you asked me, I'd have a whole list of ideas and suggestions.
But I also, like, want them to have this time for themselves.
And so I've just been leaning into, like, that's what love is, is like letting it go and not. And I think this is like the first relationship, partnership, whatever you want, situationship, whatever you want to call it, where I don't feel anxious about it. I'm like, at this really good, even keeled level of acceptance.
And yeah, I'm just really happy for them, even if I'm really sad for me.
So we'll see. I have no real answers because it's life. And sadly, I cannot tell the future because if I could, I would, but alas, I can't.
And yeah, that's just kind of where I am. I'm kind of in the space of taking every day as it comes. I've been reading a lot. Also visit and support your local libraries. I've been such a library girly. I've been reading a lot lately.
There's some new true crime stuff that's coming out. I got new glasses, which, if you're looking at the reel, you will see. If you go watch the reel for this, you will see that. I have new classes anyway. But yeah, I just feel like there's so many things that are on fire these days that, you know, I'm trying. I'm just trying to focus on my side of the street and what I'm doing and the people I care about while also staying informed.
But yeah, I think that's really it. I wanted to just hop in before the new episode drops with Heather later today.
Maybe I'll put. Maybe I'll.
Maybe I'll drop this intro Wednesday, just tomorrow, and then have Heather's episode drop Thursday. But yeah, I'm just really processing life and moving and.
Yeah.
Yes, that's it. I think it's gonna do it.
As, you know, at the end of every episode.
I changed the question for the minisode and the question is, what is the best advice I've gotten this week? Or what's a piece of advice I would give to someone who is struggling.
I think the thing that is sitting with me right now that we. There's the saying of, like, life is short.
But I also think, like, life is long. Like, there's just so many things that happen and occur and actually, no, let's change that. This thing that just came up for me in my brain is we are so as. As humans, I think we pay. We worry about so much, like, what people think about us, and we, like, really center ourselves in the story and we're just like, always, like, what if I'm perceived? And all these just, like, live your life for you.
Like, tying back into, like, yes, life is short or life is long, depending on how you want to look at it. So, like, why not just do all the things you want to do? Be brave, be bold, be wild, be free.
You owe no one your happiness but yourself. I'm not saying, like, go out and be a terrible person.
I'm saying, like, go out and just live a great life and know that it is truly a gift to get older. It is truly a gift to experience life every day.
And it's short. And if I've learned anything in the last four months, it's that, like, there's just nothing is promised.
And so jump both feet in the pool. Just go. Just rip it. Rip the band aid, if you will. So that's it for this week's episode of the Tea with Bri. Be sure to follow the podcast on Instagram. He with Bri. Send me an email at the tea with Bri gmail.com or visit the website the2withbre podcast.com.
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